1. How I met Nandi

The year is 2018. June 8 to be exact.

Imagine that you are 43 shortly after a difficult two-year divorce that drains you mentally, emotionally and financially, you are working like crazy overtime to pay all the lawyers, courts and the whole divorce process and you tell yourself that you never want anything again to experience such. And then an Angel will enter your life.

A young man from Indonesia wrote to me in the Blued app. What impressed me the most was his magical smile, which I had never seen before and never since. Charming young man with angel smile.

He started with the sentence that age is just a number and distance is not important for a good person.

In these applications, 99% are strange existences, but this guy started writing normally, about life, about work, many philosophical, but also religious topics. Before long we moved to whatsapp and we were texting each other many times every day, calling each other every day. Almost a whole year! (calling with a different time zone is sometimes difficult). Thousands of messages ending with "I love you". I have never received so much love from anyone.

I'll never forget our first call.

He called me, said Hello and immediately hung up. I was scared that he was scared of my appearance and I thought to myself... he probably just doesn't like me. But then he called again and I heard that wonderful, soft beautiful voice. He apologized to me that he was very shy. He looked shy. And when I saw him and heard that voice, that was the moment when I fell deeply in love for the first time in my life !!!

I fell in love.

I felt something I had never felt before. I had never loved so hard, so deeply before. I knew that this young man was the fulfillment of my dream, exactly the person I longed for, with whom I wanted to live my life. Maintaining a long distance relationship is difficult, but everything told me that it would be good.

It's the first and also the last time I've fallen so deeply in love. I have never felt so much love as for Nandi.

I discovered that Nandi used his "age is just a number, distance is just a number for a real person" strategy with another man.

I discovered a Dutch man's blog a few months ago.

It was really a coincidence. He is 4 years younger. His name is Alex Timmer.

https://onderwegleven.nl/hoe-het-allemaal-begon/

But when I saw the photos, I was speechless with both amazement and sadness.

This Dutch man describe publicly for the amusement of many people about his journey to find love in Indonesia.

When I first saw this blog I was just speechless in amazement and could not believe how very similar and in many ways the same my story is. It must be similar. His love is my love too. An Indonesian boy named Nandi Hidayat.

Saat itu tahun 2018. Tepatnya tanggal 8 Juni.

Bayangkan Anda berusia 43 tahun tak lama setelah perceraian sulit selama dua tahun yang menguras mental, emosional, dan finansial Anda, Anda bekerja lembur gila-gilaan untuk membayar semua pengacara, pengadilan, dan seluruh proses perceraian, dan Anda berkata pada diri sendiri bahwa Anda tidak menginginkan apa pun lagi. untuk mengalami hal seperti itu. Dan kemudian seorang Malaikat akan memasuki hidupmu.

Seorang pemuda asal Indonesia menulis kepada saya di aplikasi Blued. Yang paling membuat saya terkesan adalah senyuman ajaibnya, yang belum pernah saya lihat sebelumnya dan tidak pernah lagi sejak saat itu. Pemuda menawan dengan senyum malaikat.

Ia memulai dengan kalimat bahwa usia hanyalah angka dan jarak tidak penting bagi orang baik.

Dalam aplikasi ini, 99% adalah keberadaan yang aneh, tetapi orang ini mulai menulis secara normal, tentang kehidupan, tentang pekerjaan, banyak topik filosofis, tetapi juga keagamaan. Tak lama kemudian kami beralih ke whatsapp dan kami saling mengirim pesan berkali-kali setiap hari, saling menelepon setiap hari. Hampir setahun penuh! (menelepon dengan zona waktu berbeda terkadang sulit). Ribuan pesan diakhiri dengan "Aku cinta kamu". Saya belum pernah menerima begitu banyak cinta dari siapa pun.

Saya tidak akan pernah melupakan panggilan pertama kami.

Dia menelepon saya, menyapa dan segera menutup telepon. Aku takut dia takut dengan penampilanku dan aku berpikir... dia mungkin tidak menyukaiku. Namun kemudian dia menelepon lagi dan saya mendengar suara yang indah dan lembut itu. Dia meminta maaf kepada saya karena dia sangat pemalu. Dia tampak malu. Dan ketika aku melihatnya dan mendengar suara itu, saat itulah aku jatuh cinta untuk pertama kalinya dalam hidupku!!!

Aku jatuh cinta.

Aku merasakan sesuatu yang belum pernah aku rasakan sebelumnya. Aku belum pernah mencintai sekeras dan sedalam ini sebelumnya. Saya tahu bahwa pemuda ini adalah pemenuhan impian saya, orang yang saya rindukan, dengan siapa saya ingin menjalani hidup saya. Mempertahankan hubungan jarak jauh memang sulit, tapi semuanya memberitahuku bahwa itu akan baik.

Ini pertama dan juga terakhir kalinya aku jatuh cinta begitu dalam. Aku belum pernah merasakan cinta sebesar ini pada Nandi